I must admit my relief at discovering the narcissist found a new girlfriend. This meant all the energy he focused on me was now directed at someone else. There was some guilt in my feeling of relief because I know what he’s doing to this poor woman. He’s building her up so high she must believe the man of her dreams has finally arrived and they will live happily ever after. Soon enough, though, he will start chipping away at her to eventually dominate every move. Better the new girlfriend than me, right?
Well, that was until I learned she moved in with him and brought along her young son. I spent many hours worrying about this child, and I considered contacting the new girlfriend to give a fair warning about the narcissist. I stopped myself because I understand where she is in the relationship. Like me, no one can penetrate his control until they ready for a change.
I can only hope she figures it out faster than I did and gets out before it’s too late. I can’t help the new girlfriend now, and my meddling would just bring more chaos into her life and that of her son.
If I could say something to her, I’d say, “Wake up, honey! Wake up quick! He has perfected his art, and his mask is almost magical. It will come off, and the truth behind it will devastate much more than you could ever know.”