Worn Out Welcome

I was not the first one to see behind the narcissist’s mask, and I will not be the last. Others recognized him for who he was long before I came on the scene. Of the narcissist’s former flames and friends, I was only told the most awful things and, of course, that he was an innocent victim.

At first, when I attempted to escape the narcissist, his family and friends appeared to stand by him and claimed ignorance of any wrongdoing. After some time passed, they finally sought some version of the truth.

The craziest thing about the narcissist’s relentless pursuit of adoration is that everyone already knows the truth. Even the new girlfriend who lives with him right now knows there is something wrong – she just hasn’t hit her breaking point yet. When she moves on, he will simply find another one to continue the cycle.

A worn-out welcome is just another stepping stone in his trail of destruction in an attempt to claim something he can never have – authenticity.


Author: Undeniably Sara

Abuse is an unfortunate reality in this world and is more than physical assault. The invisible trauma we suffer can result in chronic illness, which is a relentless beast gnawing away at the soundness of mind. Education and support from others are vital in the healing journey.

20 thoughts on “Worn Out Welcome”

  1. Narcissists are vacuous vipers, slithering in the grass in search of their next victim. Sadly, as empaths we attract the sociopaths of this world, but this writing gives me hope, validation and know this, there is strength in numbers……but this is a marathon, and we can win the race with enlightening others on the perils of their toxicity. Well done. xo

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  2. My father, and my brother are described above. My mother died trying to please both of them. Now, they’re both trying their game on me. It isn’t working.
    Poor guys, they try so hard to unravel me – unsuccessfully.

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  3. Sometimes they go away on their own, but then show back up when they need something. I’ve told people like that that Ill be here if they need someone to talk to, but I don’t do any favors so don’t even ask.
    (They’ll stop talking to you once they get no where)

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  4. Wonderful writing. Reading you led me to take an empath self-test. I was surprised by the results, which suggest a lot, and explains a lot, though I suspect there’s more to learn. Thank you for sharing your experience.

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  5. What an interesting read and the comments show how often these men are in women’s lives. Fortunately, I have never been involved with one, but have seen a couple of friends in this situation. Thaks for following my blog BooksYmorebooks.

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  6. I am sorry that this has to be anyone’s experience. I grew up with an alcoholic father who’s abuse was in neglect. Here, 50 years later, he still knows which buttons to push, and I still fall into the trap.

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    1. I’m sorry to hear about your father – that is a tough way to grow up. My parents were decent to me but my maternal grandmother was the meanest person I ever knew (before I met my ex-husband). Being around her taught me that older people don’t necessarily get any better/nicer with age – many times they just get older. It was a very important lesson for me to learn. Until one faces the cause of their anger/hate they are not likely to move past it. I hope things get better for you with your dad.


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