The term healthy boundaries is a relatively new addition to my vocabulary. I realize now that my lack of boundaries left me open to abuse and manipulation from the narcissist and others. It is not easy to define one’s boundaries when there are none to begin with, but it is entirely necessary for self-preservation.
There are things in this life I am not willing to accept any longer, and I am better off alone than in another boundary-lacking, abusive relationship. The thought of another person entering my life and wreaking havoc and constant chaos where there is relative peace now is simply unacceptable. The truth is, there may not be room in my life for any more people right now, and I am okay with that. For the time being, I plan to define my boundaries clearly and maybe even write them in stone.
Limits and boundaries are good 🙂 I learned after my Aspergers diagnosis, that l needed more limits and boundaries in my life – it was the ONLY way to stop people taking the pizz out of me and my life – with boundaries you can start to self regulate your identity 🙂 Good post.
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Thank you. Boundaries are so important. I’m glad you identified yours and have implemented them.
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boundaries are good you know.. and i really love your post 🙂
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I agree. Boundaries are good.
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Providential again!
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Thank you very much!
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Thank you for sharing!
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My pleasure.
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🙂 ❤
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I thought I was the only one who learned boundaries in adulthood. This was necessary for me to learn for personal growth. I have since began teaching my daughter about boundaries. I believe it is essential!! Great post! 🙂
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I agree that boundaries are necessary for personal growth. Learning boundaries as an adult is painful but such an important lesson. I’m glad to hear you are passing this information on to your daughter.
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Boundaries are good but I would be cautious about setting them in stone, from your side of the wall they need to be able to flex and grow with you, good to be impenetrable for the outside for the time being, best wishes Neil
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I think you are right. Some boundaries need to be flexible but I still have some that will likely never change.
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We all have some unbreakable boundaries, but I always find it fascinating how things change as time goes by and different people met 🙂
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I think it could be good to be alone for a while, getting to know yourself better and deciding what you are prepared to accept and what not to accept, and becoming stronger. Thank you for sharing your journey.
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The times of my life where I have accepted being alone have been the most productive.
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Thank you for sharing this, I have started building boundaries and this is very helpful! 🙂
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My pleasure. Best wishes in your boundary building.
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Sara, you have created a warm, welcoming, insightful blog!
Thank you for following mine!
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Thank you and it’s my pleasure.
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I really appreciate this list.
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Me too. The list is wonderful.
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