Killing the Power of Secrets

Secrets breed pain and misunderstanding.  Seeing your story in writing or hearing it told through spoken word denies the secret of it’s power.  Stories should be told, pain must seek relief, and the shadowy world of dark secrets needs light.

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Author: Undeniably Sara

Hi, I'm Undeniably Sara. I'm learning how to live well with chronic illnesses by focusing on self-healing with the goal of lifelong health.

32 thoughts on “Killing the Power of Secrets”

  1. I love your writing and it’s extremely helpful to me. Things I already know, yet when I read your words I get the Ahhhhhh moments. I have been recovering forever and everyday is a new challenge, but the blessings are huge. I am still freeing myself, and not for the first time. I loved The Repair Shop post, “What we don’t repair, we repeat.” So true.

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    1. It is a great quote, isn’t it? It made me reflect on my repair work and the progress I’ve made and still need to make. I agree that it seems like the process takes forever and new challenges are around every corner but it is worth every ounce of effort.

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  2. Reblogged this on SURVIVING THE UNHINGED & CLAN and commented:

    As time goes by, I realize choosing to be being open about the abuse I endured, and reading everyone’s story was a life saver. I didn’t feel so alone. From day one I have refused to own the shame and guilt Vince has tried to push on me. Gaslighting me, trying to convince me the handprint on my neck isn’t really my neck, but my shoulder and making himself out to be the victim. In this journey I have realized that I am much stronger than he will ever be because I know and live by the truth.

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  3. Yes ma’am so true! Writing is therapy and leads to introspection and self awareness. Even if it’s just in your personal journal, pencil to paper, the feeling of expressing yourself is such a relief. Many self realizations and pivotal moments in my life have come from simply writing down my thoughts. Your secrets can no longer hold so much power when they’re laid bare right in front of you.

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  4. I am pro professional (counselor)!!! Find one you like. I’m in the midst of finding a new one. Qualified for ME, that is important. I’ve also “come clean” on my blog about my secrets which has lightened my load quite a bit. Now I must insert action!!

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  5. I like this post very much. Speaking for myself (and I’m sure there must be many more like me), I have never had the confidence to speak out, for fear of people not believing me … and I can see now how holding on to this hurt is destructive. I’m not a fan of counsellors … I think writing about it could be the way for me.

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    1. Thank you. It is difficult to speak out, particularly in the beginning. I struggled with this fear but I felt I had no choice when keeping the secrets resulted in poor health. Best wishes in your endeavor.

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    1. Seek help and support, Jackie, perhaps from friends (anyone who is willing to listen) and/or from someone in the medical profession. This is something I need to do too. I’ve never been much good at asking for help, but keeping these things to ourselves just enables them to have the power to harm us even more. X

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    2. I hope you can find an outlet for your secrets. I found researching aspects of my trauma and the healing process very helpful. I also enlisted the help of a therapist who suggested, among other things, writing down those difficult memories then shredding the paper or burning it. Best wishes.

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  6. Interesting formula: let it out … let it go! I too find this cathartic. It lends the genuine to our being. It’s not other’s acceptance we actually seek. It is our own. When we find this, we resolve and launch out on more vectors of our choosing.

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