My upbringing encouraged me to hold in my emotions and deny my secrets. While this muting was not malicious, it resulted in devastating consequences for my life. A strong person, I was taught, was one who did not react to emotional situations. Only strong people restrain themselves and their feelings. Love was one of the emotions kept under wraps encompassing the physical and verbal expressions. In the end, hiding the abuse my children and I suffered at the hands of their father/my ex-husband resulted in physical and emotional illness, job loss and financial ruin. I can’t help but wonder how different things would be if I was encouraged to share my thoughts and feelings. It is difficult and many times uncomfortable to share my story or “sing my song” but I know the process is healing and I am determined to prevail.