Painful Truths

How naive I was to believe the narcissist I married was sincere when he professed his love for me and his desire to have children and live happily ever after. I understand even those with the best intentions are sometimes unable to have lasting love or a successful marriage. The most painful truth I discovered was that everything about the narcissist was lies and manipulation.

The farce began at the very first moment we met and was for the sole purpose of fulfilling his demented ideas. He never loved me, and he is unable to love his children. We were merely another stop on his never-ending journey to make everyone else believe he is a fabulous person.

He has this insatiable drive for admiration because he knows how dark and rotten he is, driving him to spend unlimited amounts of energy building his false self. Truth, as painful as it was, released me from the agony of life with him. It hasn’t been easy to heal, particularly for the children, but we will overcome our encounter with the narcissist.


Author: Undeniably Sara

Abuse is an unfortunate reality in this world and is more than physical assault. The invisible trauma we suffer can result in chronic illness, which is a relentless beast gnawing away at the soundness of mind. Education and support from others are vital in the healing journey.

5 thoughts on “Painful Truths”

  1. It’s a strange feeling to discover the person you feel in love with isn’t really the person toy thought they were. The scary part is how quickly things can change. My first wife, seemed to reveal who she was over night. At least this ended up being a lesson in survival. I’m glad to see you made it through yours.

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    1. I’m sorry to hear abut your first wife but glad to hear you survived that experience. I agree, it is a little mind blowing when realizing your spouse is not at all who you thought they were. It’s like you are suddenly married to a complete stranger and not a nice one. My ex took much more time to let his mask slip off and the signs that he was a narcissist were there but I refused to see them. I should have taken the first hint instead of waiting until he was fully unmasked.


  2. I have been through something like this after my brother’s suicide with my family. I am trying, now that I know the truth, and I have processed it, now get free of obsessing about it all. My prayer and my hope and my goal this year is to walk away free from them, and from all of this mess and injustice. I want to be free to love, free to live the spiritual life. Thank you for telling us what you have been through. It helps the others who are going through the grief of discovering painful lies and trying to recover from unbelievable damage. We can, you know. Recover. I am becoming more and more sure of it!

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  3. It wasn’t naive of you to believe that your ex was telling you the truth. Most people expect their significant others to be honest with them. It’s such a basic part of a relationship. The failure is all on him. I’m sorry that happened to you.

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