How naive I was to believe the person I married was sincere when he professed his love for me and his desire to have children and live happily ever after. I understand even those with the best intentions are unable to have lasting love and successful marriage. The most painful truth I discovered was that everything was a lie and that I was manipulated from the very beginning for the sole purpose of fulfilling his demented ideas. He never loved me, is unable to love his children and we were merely another stop on his never-ending journey to make everyone else believe he is a wonderful person. He has this insatiable drive because he knows how dark and rotten he is causing him to spend unlimited amounts of energy building his false self. Truth, as painful as it was, released me from the agony of life with him.
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It’s a strange feeling to discover the person you feel in love with isn’t really the person toy thought they were. The scary part is how quickly things can change. My first wife, seemed to reveal who she was over night. At least this ended up being a lesson in survival. I’m glad to see you made it through yours.
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I’m sorry to hear abut your first wife but glad to hear you survived that experience. I agree, it is a little mind blowing when realizing your spouse is not at all who you thought they were. It’s like you are suddenly married to a complete stranger and not a nice one. My ex took much more time to let his mask slip off and the signs that he was a narcissist were there but I refused to see them. I should have taken the first hint instead of waiting until he was fully unmasked.
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I have been through something like this after my brother’s suicide with my family. I am trying, now that I know the truth, and I have processed it, now get free of obsessing about it all. My prayer and my hope and my goal this year is to walk away free from them, and from all of this mess and injustice. I want to be free to love, free to live the spiritual life. Thank you for telling us what you have been through. It helps the others who are going through the grief of discovering painful lies and trying to recover from unbelievable damage. We can, you know. Recover. I am becoming more and more sure of it!
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Yes, we can recover from extremely painful events. I’m sorry to hear about your brother and the difficulties with your family. Best wishes on your continued journey.
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It wasn’t naive of you to believe that your ex was telling you the truth. Most people expect their significant others to be honest with them. It’s such a basic part of a relationship. The failure is all on him. I’m sorry that happened to you.
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