Narcissists Do It On Purpose!

Realizing the narcissists in my life knew very well what they were doing was a revelation for me. They purposefully and knowingly hurt others without regret, empathy, or taking any responsibility. They are in control of their actions at all times. Ultimately, the priority is to impress those who have yet to see behind their masks. Narcissists do it on purpose!


Author: Undeniably Sara

Abuse is an unfortunate reality in this world and is more than physical assault. The invisible trauma we suffer can result in chronic illness, which is a relentless beast gnawing away at the soundness of mind. Education and support from others are vital in the healing journey.

16 thoughts on “Narcissists Do It On Purpose!”

  1. They ask question repeatedly untill you are forced to say yesits not you its me. Taking my will. No more been attacked physically multiple times when i stood up but im alive and am healing trying to help as Sara thank you for everything you write.

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  2. I haven’t had the chance to read your whole blog so I don’t know your whole story, but I know what it’s like to be forced to MOVE BACK HOME with narcissists because of chronic illness; that’s an incredibly difficult thing to have to handle, especially when you don’t want to be there just because of independence. And then when they can feed off that energy … it’s not good. I was fortunate enough to get “healthy ENOUGH” to move out, but I hear you – they hurt you and they know what they’re doing … and it’s just unfortunate that for some of us with difficult life circumstances because there are times when we just CANNOT get out!

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    1. Beth, I can’t imagine having to move back home with the narcissist, particularly when you are already fighting chronic illness. One of my worst nightmares was of moving back home, and so far, I’ve avoided that situation. I don’t understand the callousness with which some people treat others, the refusal to consider how another person feels, and the refusal to change. I’m glad you were able to get out. We are both fortunate to have escaped. My thoughts go out to those who are still trapped.

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      1. You are so right – and I couldn’t say it any more eloquently than that! It really reached the boiling point when the aforementioned narcissist developed a “chronic illness,” albeit one that only affects a very small portion of one organ system (I have vasculitis which affects every blood vessel in my body and I know far too many young women who have died suddenly because the disease just caused their bodies to randomly throw clots .. and that was that. And the immune deficiency is its own beast….); at any rate, the “disease” manifested at a time during which this person kept screwing up with jobs and getting fired and then used the illness as an excuse to do nothing for a very long time. When it became such a matter of lounging about feeling bad for oneself and ultimately making EVERYTHING a “pissing match” with me (I would say with joy “oh, I am down on my steroids, I have lost 20 lbs!” and the response would be “WELL I DIDN’T EVEN TRY TO LOSE WEIGHT AND I LOST 20 LBS FROM MY DAMN DISEASE!” … and it just got to the point where I could literally feel my life energy being drained away from me. We are very fortunate indeed because even recalling these experiences is too much for me; even having to go visit my family for extended periods of time while this narcissist is around is too much for me. My prayers and thoughts also go out to those who are trapped and ESPECIALLY those with chronic illness or who are in other situations who really cannot get away from the situation … it’s awful and it is no state in which true “healing” is possible. I really hope this new year is a new start for so many people.


      2. ^^My replies tend to be long like my posts :-/ At any rate, my point is just that when an illness or illnesses are basically running your life, it is not a matter of “OH, look I AM SICK TOO! No, I am SICKER THAN YOU!” … it is a matter of “I WANT TO DO EVERYTHING I CAN THINK OF TO BE WELL!” I suppose just in that kind of having to “compare illnesses” the narcissism comes through. I really hope no one has to deal with that while very very ill – it really is an awful thing. At any rate, I hope you have a happy and healthy new year and I hope everyone who has to deal with narcissists who are close in their lives can manage to develop healthy boundaries of some kind to protect themselves this new year!


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