I’ve learned to do it myself and not because I don’t want help but because I know better. Too many times help is disguised as something else. Instead, help is offered as a sort of down payment for future servitude. Fulfillment of this servitude is expected immediately upon request, regardless of the circumstances. This is a concept I’ve come to understand as an adult, and quite frankly, I’d rather do it myself than be in debt to a selfish soul. In return, when help is genuine and truly selfless, it is seen as the truly beautiful thing that it is.
It doesn’t come easily, but with practice, kind thoughts can heal.
The Narcissist has no shame. To have shame is to feel bad about doing something wrong. To have shame is to regret hurting others. Instead of feeling shame, the Narcissist lies, deflects blame, or claims amnesia, all while looking you straight in the eye.