Understanding Helps

Understanding the narcissist emotional age helps put some things into perspective.  A young child throwing a temper tantrum is irritating but something to be expected as a part of normal development.  A full-grown man behaving in an angry, irrational way is just frightening and dangerous.  I don’t know how to stop that but at least I know he is reacting in an abnormal way to life. I no longer blame myself for his reactions. I’ll keep getting better.  He will always be a narcissist.

Truth

The truth is I  let them stay much too long.  An undeserving person doesn’t know when to leave.  They get comfortable with what they have and expect it to always be there.  When the moment of truth arrives they are shocked and can’t believe you want them to leave. Much appreciation to those who leave quietly. For those who don’t, what a frightening journey that is…

Distance

I’ve been doing this for as long as I can remember.  Distance is safe but also painful. Not just for me but for all those who love me. I still need the distance. As painful as it is it’s nothing compared to the pain I feel without it…